Things I found funny this week — not Kavanaugh

This is the third and final installment of the Kavanaugh confirmation saga. Read CiKeithia‘s look at how white privilege showed up and Carrie’s blog post about disabilities and sexual assault.

We need a funny post after several weeks of serious post. While the confirmation saga wasn’t funny, we have to also poke fun at things as a way to learn and stay up for fighting racism, sexism, and bad stuff.

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Sen. Cory Booker during the confirmation haring of Judge Kavanaugh.

Things I found funny this week:

1. Joking with a friend I would never be a Supreme Court Justice, bye-bye not-real-dream. More seriously and funnily, the privilege displayed by so many at the highest echelons of government during the confirmation hearings was appalling. White women who voted to confirm Kavanaugh proved once again they let their sisters of color down. White men who peacocked their way through the day proved they can bully their way through life. This is why so many people of color are held in place, if white people can’t get their shitz together how do we have hope they can undo anything to make our lives better?

2. On Indigenous People’s Day someone posted on social media that talking about Indigenous People’s Day oppressed Italian Americans because the very dead Christopher Columbus was Italian. My kid also reminded me Columbus never set foot on North America, so kinda hard to discover something you never really discovered. Let’s not celebrate a brutal colonizer who brought disease, lorded over Indigenous Taino people, and created slave routes. I’m not sure what that Columbus Day party looks like, oh wait it is like an everyday racism party.

In what’s not funny is in a Texas court stripped Native Americans of important adoption laws saying it discriminates against whites (and other non-Native Americans but let’s be clear this is mostly impacting white people) of their rights to adopt. This ruling could “jeopardize decades of legal precedent affecting tribal sovereignty, said Dan Lewerenz and Erin Dougherty Lynch, attorneys with the Native American Rights Fund.” Systemic racism and colonialism continue on, thanks Columbus.

3. Thinking a mathematical formula could solve an equity formula. I’ll write more about this at a later point. This isn’t ha-ha funny, it is sad creepy funny.

4. Back to Kavanaugh. Ehh, nothing funny there to report. Just vacillating between raging sadness and raging annoyance with a white privilege system that protects its own even its own but refuses to protect the rights of Black and Brown people.

5. Asian representation. Two college dudes noticed there was no Asian representation in the posters at their local McDonald’s so they created their own poster to hang on the wall and it stayed there for 51 days. Way to go French fry eating real-life models. What made this even better is it is Down Syndrome awareness month. My friend who has a toddler with Down Syndrome lamented she wishes more children with Ds would be featured in ad campaigns, especially at stores like Target. Maybe in our off-time we’ll create a grassroots campaign of poc disabled babies and get their posters hung in stores. But seriously we do need more poc representation in ad campaigns, especially of pocs with disabilities, LGBTQIA kids of color, and pocs farthest from justice.

6. I laughed at a Tweet from a guy named Brett Kavanagh who said today isn’t a good day to have that name. I realized, yup I’m lucky to not be a white guy who feels entitled to yell, cry, or throw public tantrums in front of Senators and on national TV and radio.

7. Finally, we have less than 10 years to figure out climate change. PoCs are being hit hard. What’s funny, not much. But there is hope, if we as People of Color, turn out to vote we make it that much harder for racist, misogynist, and power trippers to get on the ballot and win public office. Register to vote than vote in this election year.

Good-bye Kavanaugh, it is time to go. Next week we return to our regular fakequity post about everything and nothing, and looks at race and social justice topics.

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People, Not Things — #MeToo in Disabilities

Editor’s Note: This is the second in a three-part series looking at how the Judge Kavanaugh Supreme Court nomination is impacting people of color. Last week CiKeithia Pugh wrote about how white privilege showed up at the Senate hearing. This week Carrie Basas, our white ally and disability rights ally, shares how disabled people are impacted by sexual violence. 


By Carrie Griffin Basas

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A few weeks ago, I was halfway across the country explaining to a room full of business lawyers that sexual harassment and assault are all about power—they are forms of discrimination fueled by other oppressions. Yes, sexual violence is sometimes about wanting to sleep with someone but it is always about power.

I had lost a lot of the men and some of the older women in the room. They wanted a clear, simple policy on what not to do when it came to workplace relationships. What I challenged them to do instead was to observe and interrupt power and notice how forms of violence and oppression are interconnected. My advice seemed to have nothing to do with sex, but everything to do with who counts and who gets to decide.

The other week, I sat in a long meeting that was dominated by men. In the wake of the Kavanaugh hearing, I scanned the room and couldn’t help but wonder how many of the people there had assaulted women. I was wrong and embarrassed to speculate. It is just I am not looking at people with fresh eyes; I am looking at them with weariness and fear. I feel more precarious and vulnerable than usual. And it’s not my whiteness that makes me feel this way. These times remind me more than ever what it is like to live with a disability.

I feel vulnerable to others having physical power over me—realizing I exist within a body that depends on a cane to get around and can easily be pushed to the ground. I feel vulnerable in social spaces where tall men loom over me, unintentionally, and boys are allowed to be boys in their off-color comments or power plays. I feel vulnerable when some people stare at me for being a woman and vulnerable when other people stare through me as if I am not even a person. I still have whiteness as a shield and protector, something my poc counterparts can’t count on to protect them.

I feel vulnerable because I see others in my community sharing their stories. I feel vulnerable because of numbers. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, the National Intimate Partner and Domestic Violence Survey, and research conducted by the Disability and Abuse Project, 70% of disabled people experience some form of abuse, 40% of that sexual. Disabled people are twice as likely to experience violent crime and three times as likely to be sexually assaulted than nondisabled people. A recent NPR article put sexual assault rate at seven times as likely for people with intellectual disabilities. And when disabled people report violence, we are less likely to get an adequate response from police. In one study where almost 38% of disabled people reported violence, only 10% of their assailants were arrested. Very rarely do these studies disaggregate and report on disabled people of color; we can safely assume the rates are higher for disabled pocs.

I feel vulnerable because I have been vulnerable to others; that is my experience, my history. My entire way of being in the world and social rules about power are woven into my body because in many spaces where I am, in so many social encounters, I am an object. An object is not merely a sexual object. An object in its truest form is something to be acted upon. In acting on something, we distance it. We strip it of its identity, its personhood. We take it from lasting to disposable.

Disabled people are infantilized within our society. We are not seen as having agency. Rather, we are seen as requiring care and assistance, and penalized for it when we do. Being interdependent is not a door for inappropriate touching or other transgressions. It is not an excuse for diminished police response, inaccessible victim support services, or disbelief that disabled people actually have sex. All of these beliefs compound our silent victimization. People are simply living out societal norms when it comes to acting on disabled bodies.

People with disabilities are often not allowed to have boundaries. I fear this for my disabled daughter when she goes off to camp or hops on a school bus alone. I worry no one will have boundaries with her and she will grow up to think she doesn’t deserve them. And my fears are grounded in truth. According to the World Health Organization, children with disabilities are 3-4 times as likely to be victims of physical and sexual violence than their non-disabled peers, 5 times as likely if they have an intellectual disability.

I am not alone in being turned into an object. My experience links me with so many other people who know on a daily basis they are more likely to be assaulted and less likely to be valued or believed when it happens. Approximately 60% of Black girls experience sexual abuse by age 18. Over 23% of Latinx women experience sexual or physical violence during their lifetimes; Asian American women can experience similar rates. More than half of Native women have experienced sexual violence. And almost half of  Indian Health Service emergency rooms do not have an accessible protocol or trained personnel in place for sexual assault. Additionally, transgender people of color are more likely to have been sexually assaulted in their lifetimes; the rates range from 53%-65% for Black, Middle Eastern, American Indian/Native, and multiracial transgender victims. If we need further proof that sexual violence is not about sex, but it is about who is a person and who is an object, consider over 80% of LGTBQIA hate crimes that end in murder take the lives of people of color.

Most people who experience sexual violence or other forms of abuse will not be giving testimony in a confirmation hearing. Most people reflected in these numbers have been objects and remain objects. Communities of color are spaces where we dump our trash, invest less in school buildings, and chalk up poor health to poor habits. Institutions are where we dump our disabled people. And prisons are where we dump our POC brothers and sisters, many of whom have disabilities or will acquire them while incarcerated.

This week, I feel shame and disappointment we cannot sustain our outrage for everyone. It takes a Supreme Court confirmation process to speak—and even then, just for a small subset of experiences. I worry the problem isn’t so much a problem unless we can see ourselves in it.

I need to know about your suffering and you need to know about mine—and neither should matter less just because you will never fully know my reality, nor I yours. We need to bear witness to and stop people from becoming things in our history and present—from human trafficking to concentration camps, police brutality to forced sterilization. When we strip people of their humanity or we turn them into objects—such as commodities now on our power duo t-shirts and posters of Dr. Ford and Anita Hill—we make them belong to us and we make them subject to our rules. We no longer hear their screams at the same volume. We no longer believe they are in pain.

More reading on the topic:


carrie 2Carrie Basas works in education advocacy and formerly in civil rights law, specializing in disabilities rights. She was a law professor focusing on race, disability, and health justice. Carrie has a MEd in Education Policy, Organizations and Leadership from the University of Washington. She earned a Juris Doctorate from Harvard Law School and an Honors B.A. in Psychology with a minor in Sociology/Anthropology from Swarthmore College. Contrary to the impression left by this post, Carrie enjoys appropriately timed hugs from trusted friends and colleagues and would appreciate jazz hands from all others.

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Does White Privilege Exist? Asking for A Friend.

By CiKethia Pugh

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Artwork by Sandra Nadine Khalifa, from Amplifier Artwork, open use license

Today, I found myself glued to the TV and radio every chance I could in between work commitments. Judge Brett Kavanaugh’s Senate hearing was on TV and radio, including the questioning of Dr. Christine Blasey Ford. We often avoid talking directly about partisan politics on this blog; there are more than enough examples of institutional racism without having to spar with people about their political ideologies but today I am making an exception.

What did I witness? Does White Privilege Exist? I am asking for a friend. See I do this work a lot. Talking with people about how to lead for racial equity. My work is tough, but it is necessary. If you have heard me talk, you’ll hear me say my why is obvious.  Not engaging in this work allows institutional racism and white supremacy to go unchallenged. It means I am putting the responsibility on others to create the change I hope to see in my lifetime. As a black woman, I cannot leave this to chance, I can’t trust others to challenge racism – history and my experiences prove others won’t or can’t speak up for me.  I work actively every day to be a part of the change I believe can happen, this is my individual contribution to the collective.

Here we are examining the events of the day and I find myself totally enraged. Some of you will want to look at this through only a gender lens, and yes, we could have that conversation because what we witnessed was toxic masculinity in its truest form, but I see everything through a racial lens. I was so struck by the events of today. It was an unsettled feeling that I couldn’t shake and then it dawned on me why I was so uncomfortable. I literally spent my day watching white privilege in action.

White privilege is to be enraged at the mere notion that you could be accused of wrongdoing, yet for people of color we are presumed guilty and it is our job to prove our innocence.

White privilege is to use your tears to disrupt and distract. White tears flip the script and next thing you know the accused is now playing the role of the accuser. Black, brown and indigenous peoples have historically experienced trauma that has had long-lasting impacts on our lives. My pain is inconvenient, and I have been told to suppress those feelings. There is no place for my tears.

White privilege is being shocked at a system you thought was there to protect you when it doesn’t. The impacts of institutional racism confirm daily for people of color that the system was never designed with us in mind.

White privilege is being able to move on from this. The storm doesn’t last forever. For people of color, the storm may let up a bit, but it never ends.

So, I’ll ask again. Does white privilege exist? I am asking for a friend.


Who Do We Believe

By Erin Okuno

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Artwork by Lauren Crew, from Amplifier Artwork, open use license

I’m writing a companion piece to CiKeithia’s piece. This isn’t to answer her question, but more so because I was thinking about this post earlier in the day. Who do we believe? Do we believe women? Do we believe women of color? Do we believe Black, Brown, Asian, and Indigenous people? Do we believe people who don’t look like us or don’t sound like us?

To believe is to value. To believe means we find a common bond and create a relationship with someone no matter how deep or brief. American culture creates biases in us that condition us to believe white men over others and to value whiteness over people of color.

Sometimes we need to suspend our disbelief and to believe. I am remembering a line from a speech made by Tarell Alvin McCraney, playwright of the movie Moonlight. He challenged us to “examine without defense.” In today’s political environment can we “examine without defense?” The toxic masculinity and white privilege on display in the Senate hearing around Judge Kavanaugh protect the status quo and doesn’t allow an examination without defense. It protects whiteness.

Unchecked whiteness hurts all of us. Unchecked whiteness allows privileges and entitlement to benefit some and not others. As CiKeithia wrote, the storm will continue for people of color but some of you have a lifeboat waiting.

I’m creating my own lifeboat and welcome others to join me. In the lyrics to the song Glory by John Legend and Common their words remind us:

“The movement is a rhythm to us
Freedom is like religion to us
Justice is juxtaposition in us
Justice for all just ain’t specific enough”

Justice for sexual assault victims, justice for women of color, freedom through justice. Justice can’t be a juxtaposition, it needs to counter white privilege and toxicity. The movement towards justice may ebb and tide, but it will always rise and crest again. I believe in this because I value justice.

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Peacocks, Hummingbirds, or Chickens — How to Present for Racial Equity

By Erin

Over the past week, I’ve sat through a lot of different education-wonk presentations. Some of them were interesting, some of there were snoozefests but I feigned interest, and some of them were on fire for all the wrong reasons. In most of the presentations, people talked about racial equity in some way. Some of the presenters really got it and dived deep into the topic, others were scared to talk about it but knew they had to and had talking points. The worst presenters, mostly by men, who tried to talk about equity clearly didn’t get it and refused to back down when asked questions and called on not knowing the answers.

The presenters fall into three categories:

  • Peacocks: Look at me, I’m so proud and I know everything. Don’t you dare challenge me cause I’m pretty. I may not know anything about race or how racial equity is applied, but I am too proud to admit it. Let me puff my chest out and if you challenge me I’m going to squawk and yell over you.
  • Hummingbirds: I am going to keep talking about race even though I don’t understand what I’m talking about, if I keep talking and using buzz words maybe I can get away with it.
  • Chickens: The workers, they understand race and they are busy actually doing work that leads to equitable results. They are steady and often do the work without calling attention to themselves and are humble.

Peacocks – How they show up

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Peacock image, from pixaby, Creative Commons – myska0091

Peacocks are the easiest to spot. They puff themselves up a lot and present with an air of arrogance, ‘don’t question my data,’ ‘I am a subject matter expert,’ talks over people or cuts them off. When someone asks them a question they can’t answer or in the wrong about they deflect from answering. They talk in circles or provide an answer that is threatening or shuts down the conversation.

Peacocks are dangerous to racial equity. They are often tasked with being the spokesperson for a project even though their racial equity fluency is sparse. When they speak they are arrogant and lack humility and an inability to build trust with the community. They often don’t want to hear genuine feedback. When they do take feedback, they don’t know how to use because their answers are always right.

How not to be this presenter: If you don’t want to be this presenter learn and practice humility. It is ok to admit you don’t have an answer – in fact, use this as a way to deepen your own understanding about race as it relates to the topic. No one can know everything about race, culture, language, etc. Admitting you don’t know and show you want to listen is a way to build trust. Stop puffing your chest out and fanning your feathers – for us to be in a just-relationship we need to rebalance knowledge and power.

Hummingbirds – Flitty and Buzzy when it comes to talking about Race

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Hummingbirds are cute and appear non-threatening. Their presentations are well executed and often have slick slide decks. They can throw around some good racial equity sounding words and lingo. Yet when someone asks them to go deeper then their pre-planned talking points they can’t really answer the questions and will begin to throw the buzzwords around again.

Despite their flitty nature and tiny-size, hummingbirds can be dangerous to advancing racial equity work. They often don’t have substance or depth to their conversations. Buzzwords and jargon may win-over some people, but when it is time to have a substantive conversation they flop over with their tiny-bird feet in the air. When this happens conversations and projects stall because people won’t understand the work or it will be so watered down it won’t have an impact.

How not to be this presenter: Stop using buzzwords and learn about race. I recently listened to a presenter who was a content expert but couldn’t articulate anything helpful when it came to talking about racial equity. When people in the room asked questions he flitted around the question and kept throwing buzzwords around. What he should have done was understand how and why race are important and how it impacts the outcomes of his project.

If you need taking this step, pull up a racial equity toolkit or another tool and answer the questions. Once you do that take the work to another level and ask why the answers are the way they are, and then ask others to join you in this exercise. You’ll end up with a better and higher quality presentation.

Chickens – Be a Chicken

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Be a chicken, it is ok to be a chicken. Chickens, hens in particular, are workers – they’ve done their pre-work on learning about race and it shows up in their presentations. They don’t call attention to themselves and they like to live and work in a flock of likeminded hens.

When you present like a chicken it is ok to say what you need to say and admit to not knowing something, it is ok to be vulnerable. Chickens also know that being part of a flock offers warmth and protection. There is no need to be loud and proud, it is good to do your part and then work with others to supplement and add to the collective knowledge sharing. Chickens are also smart and will often leave behind eggs to nourish others for the work ahead. Be like a chicken – feed and support others too.

Special thanks to my colleague MH for naming the peacock behavior.

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Leaders of Color — Learn to Say “I’m Sorry…”

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Earlier today I was at a listening session with the head of a large public institution. The person speaking was a poc and as he went through his PowerPoint slide deck he made sure to mention they are working on race and social justice. He mentioned it and moved on. Later in the presentation, he talked about a story that had come out in the news a few weeks ago about how students of color were excluded from a program at a disproportionate rate than white children. As he talked about this he said: “We don’t see race…” As I heard this I got bitter and jaded. This is a large public institution that is supposed to be accountable to taxpayers, it is meant to serve all in the community, especially those without means to pay, and what I heard was “I don’t see you.”

As a person of color, I probably unfairly judge other leaders of color. I unfairly expect more because I know the stakes are higher for pocs. I want us all to succeed and to collectively use our voice to push for bigger systemic changes. I also know we are rare and unfairly are expected to be leaders for groups rather than of individuals.  Our representation matters and we should be using our access, influence, and power to push for change. To hear another leader of color say “we don’t see race” made me cringe.” As leaders of color, we have to see race. We must see it, because if we don’t, who will? This is where the unfairness comes in — we give passes to white people who are just learning about race, but as leaders of color we hold ourselves and each other to higher standards. This is also where I have to slow down and give this leader of color some grace and in some ways apologize and say I’m sorry for the public callout.

As leaders of color there are fewer of us out in the world. In the nonprofit sector the number of executive directors of color are small as compared to the larger field, and especially for a field dedicated to solving the world’s problems, many of which unjustly impact people of color more acutely. It isn’t enough to be a leader of color if we’re not using our words and actions to lead for racial equity and not just using them as buzzwords to win attention and grant money. Again some people get a pass, but we unjustly have a different set of rules to play by; because we are rarer if we mess up the criticism is harsher and we get hit by both sides — those who want the status quo to stay and those who feel we didn’t push hard enough.

During the question and answer portion of the program I challenged him on how the organization can say they have a racial equity focus but at the same time say they don’t see race. The answer wasn’t satisfying, as I knew it wouldn’t be. There was no win for anyone in that situation.

Leaders of Color – Learning and Being Humble

Tonight, I was with another leader of color of another very large public institution. The moderator asked her what she does for self-care. She said she grew up near a national park with very big mountains and enjoys being in nature. She also said when she stands below the mountains and waterfalls she is reminded how little she is and how insignificant we can be. I appreciated the humility and calmness she extended in her answer to lead. We can sometimes get hot and bothered by everyday problems, but if leading for equity requires a calm and stillness to be in the work for the long haul. We can be part of the problem or part of finding solutions and finding justice.

Humility and grounding in self and place are important. I think in many ways what I wanted to hear from the leader of color was “I’m sorry, we (our staff) messed up…” As leaders we have to say we’re sorry and our organizations messed up, it is human and there is a restorative justice element in admitting our faults. Admitting a mistake is better than saying “We don’t see race,” which invisibilizes a major part of the problem. In my judgment, this is a bigger sin. Saying I’m sorry means we see the problem and can acknowledge it and maybe with some grace and humility we can work on fixing it together.

A few months ago, I had my own moment of messing up. We had hosted a big event and due to a lot of factors, we didn’t offer childcare. In an act of kindness and bravery, one of my partners had the hard conversation with our team about it. As soon as he started talking, I started rationalizing it and explaining how it happened he stopped me and said “I’m hearing a lot of excuses…” what I should have done was said “You’re right we messed up and I’m sorry,” and then listened more. It was hard and my impulse was to power-play, rationalize, and deflect. Thankfully we could draw from our relationship to move forward on redesigning our events to be more inclusive of children, especially children of color.

Where to go and What to do

Leading for race as leaders of color and white allies means we say we’re sorry when we mess up. Say your sorry, listen, and calmly keep working. With some grace and kindness to ourselves and others, we can stand beneath a mountain and be humbled and strong at the same time.

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Racism Likes ________

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Art by Ernesto Yerena, from Amplifer.org

The other day a few of us were sitting around our office conference room table munching on pizza and cookies. We bribed Heidi to join us with the promise of ice cream that she had bought but I had stashed at the office. As we were munching on pizza Jondou threw out the prompt: “Racism likes _________” and we started throwing out answers.

Racism likes woke folx who like to analyze but don’t disrupt.

Racism likes people who want simple stuff – tip sheets and worksheets, but don’t do their own reflections.

Racism likes to self-correct to protect itself and its power.

Racism likes the status quo.

Racism likes white people.

As we went around throwing out ideas we chuckled and then ate more ice cream. Racism likes ice cream too – soft creamy and melty, like white fragile people when you talk about race and the conversation gets heated.

The truth is racism thrives when conditions are right and no one stops to ask deeper and harder questions, or when people don’t stop and disrupt racism from happening. It happens all the time when we allow the status quo to continue or we don’t ask questions or call out things disparities.

Hard vs. Simple

As we chuckled and ate our way through the conversation we talked about how people, especially white people who aren’t comfortable in talking about race, like simple things. They ask for simple tools – checklist and worksheets, reading list, TED Talks, etc. Yet even when given these tools, do they really use them or do they file them away for when they need to lead a training at work or school on race. They can then pull out the list of prompts and activities to look and sound woke.

Undoing and fighting racism takes harder brain work. We can’t worksheet our way out of racist thinking or practices. Worksheets, online quizzes, and watching TED Talks are first steps and ways to help us get into the right mindset or to open us to new ways of thinking. The real work is in self-reflection, listening and thinking, and then using the skills and knowledge to spot and call out racism.

Self-reflection around race is hard work. It is also something we all have to do if we’re going to be honest and realize our personal roles in undoing racism and creating a more just community. People of color also benefit when we take the time to do deeper thinking about the roles and impacts of race on our own privileges and oppression. When we do this reflective work we can also begin to see ways we can work to undo the nasty hold racism has on our lives and our communities.

The reflective work is hard and it can be scary. It is scary to realize we may have unearned privilege even though American ethos preaches hard work is key. It can also be hard to reflect alone or with people whom you feel safe with because they may not challenge you to think deeper and think more broadly. As an example, if I need to uncover my racial biases I really shouldn’t be doing that deeper thinking with just white and Asians. While it may feel safer for me to do so, as an Asian American who grew up in an Asian majority community I need to challenge myself to learn more about and reflect on the experiences of Latinx, Native Americans/Indigenous, African Americans, and others.

Racism likes and doesn’t like

Sometimes when I’m stuck I try to think about the opposite. Years ago I had a mentor who challenged us to do this. We told him we couldn’t do an event because of a laundry list of reason – not enough time, no money, yada yada. He stopped us mid-way through our list and said “You’ve told me how you can’t do it, but have you thought about how you can do it? Let’s think about that for a moment.” So we did and while it still made sense for us to not do the event, thinking about the opposite was equally important and empowering to figure out what we could do. So in that vein of thought let’s think about what racism doesn’t like:

Racism doesn’t like thinking

Racism doesn’t like people who analyze and then use that analysis to propel change

Racism doesn’t like people of color who survive and thrive despite racist conditions

Racism doesn’t like intersectionality and focusing on our multiplicities of being

Racism doesn’t like it when we organize, concentrate power for good and work to unseat power hoarders

Racism doesn’t like change

Now that we’ve named what racism doesn’t like we can do the hard work of changing our communities for the better.

 

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Back to School – What We Must All Learn

Editor’s note: We’re taking next week off. Enjoy your Labor Day weekend.

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Artwork: From South Shore K-8 Freedom School “Read Aloud” [picture of books, sayings: “I Know I can, Be What I, Wanna Be!]

By Erin Okuno

It is back to school season. Here are some things we need to learn or revisit in the new school year:

  1. The difference between race and ethnicity. Very often I see and hear people use the terms race and ethnicity interchangeably. They are not interchangeable. A simple way to remember: Race – big groups, Black or African American, American Indian or Alaska Native, Asian, and Native Hawaiian or Other Pacific Islander, White.Ethnicity is the sub-groups that nest under these categories: Such as in Asian ethnic groups such as Chinese, Hmong, Japanese, Korean, Mien, Okinawan, Taiwanese, Vietnamese, etc. categorized as Asian. Ethnic groups are often distinct in their language, cultures, and in the US the migration stories to the US are different between ethnic groups.

    For educators, the difference between race and ethnicity is important. With this basic understanding, you can begin to ask for better student data and also understand the identities of your students more-fully. At another time we’ll explore race and ethnicity data.

    Bonus points – learn what nationality is and how it is different from race. Quick answer: Nationality is where a person has a legal relationship to the state, such as what country issues a passport. Example, my nationality is American, my race is Asian, my ethnicities are Japanese and Okinawan.

 

  1. Native American / Indigenous History. Earlier this week I spent some time with high school educators during their professional development day. They came to my office to learn about our work and to build connections. As I shared what we’re working on I paused to acknowledge we are on Native Lands. I also mentioned for me it is important to acknowledge we are on Coast Salish, Duwamish land and to do the deeper work of learning about Native American history. As we talked I mentioned how doing this can make more visible our Native American students and help to undo whiteness in curriculum. One history teacher said he teaches a unit on great empires and is now questioning why it is so heavy on European history and will look at weaving in great empires from Indigenous people.While we’re at it, we should also learn the histories of other people of color and not just the civil rights and modern headline versions of bad or exceptional things happening to pocs. African, Latinx, Asian, Pacific Islander, Middle East history is rich and diverse.

 

  1. How to properly pronounce people’s names. Others have written about this so I’m not going to go into it, but let’s slow down and try to learn people’s names and how they want it pronounced. A Somali American colleague shared her name story with me. The Somali pronunciation of her name doesn’t match the Romanization. It was a choice between having it look ‘right’ on paper, but knowing people would forever pronounce it wrong. Many immigrants face this dilemma. We should try to learn people’s names if we have a relationship with them, especially if they are students and family members in our schools.

 

  1. Disabilities. Through working with colleagues, such as my friend Carrie, I’ve learned a lot about disabilities justice and how it is interwoven with race. I still have a lot to learn, I’m a baby-novice on this topic. Most likely in your classroom or in your network are people with disabilities – visible or not visible. Carrie reminds me that twenty-percent of the population has a disability but many do not share their disabilities because of fear, anxiety, identity, etc. 

    Deepening our learning about disabilities and pocs is important. The impact of a disability is different for many pocs, and in some cases, pocs are over or under-represented in diagnoses. And learning about different disabilities is required as well – e.g. mental health, physical disabilities, learning disabilities, chronic illness, etc. If we will ever achieve racial justice we also have to focus on disabilities justice. One place to ease into learning about disabilities is Ablelism BINGO.

    One practice I’m embedding more into my daily work is pausing to ask what people’s access needs are. At meetings, we pause and invite people to say what they need whether it is a disability or language accommodation, or something as simple as “I need to leave the meeting early.” I tell people they can slip me a note or send a text message if they don’t want to announce it. Hat tip to Fakequity team member Jondou for bringing this practice to us.

 

  1. Child development, bias, and identity. Each of those deserves a topic of their own, but for expediency sake I’m lumping them together. We need to learn about child development because understanding how children (and really all of us) develop helps us understand life better – hang out with a good child development person and you’ll feel like you got a free therapy session and you’ll understand yourself better. For students of color, we need to understand child development because too often we assume too much or too little of our students of color and don’t see them as individuals or understand their family context, our personal assumptions and biases play out. Identity is the in-buzz thing (as it should be) – learn about it, including understanding the experiences of our poc LGQBTIA communities.

A new school year offers so much promise. Hopefully by focusing on a few things we can make important changes that last beyond the school year.

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What Resistance Looks Like

By Erin Okuno

I’m back from a week-long road trip taking me from the Puget Sound to the Rocky Mountains. It was a great trip and I learned a lot along the way. It also made me appreciate how people and culture are rooted in place and how it can help to feed our resistance to whiteness. I wanted to write this post because it is time to focus on something positive; my past few blog posts have focused on heavy topics so hopefully, this one gives us some levity and in the words of Star Wars Resistance: “The Resistance Will Not Be Intimidated.”

To me, resistance comes in big and small acts. Resistance is standing up and marching and rallying and having a public display of actively resisting something, such as the recent rallies at ICE detention centers. It is also the small everyday acts of making choices and choosing racial justice. Resisting whiteness is a form of resistance that helps to build our racial and cultural understanding and tolerance.

Indigenous Place Names

IMG_20180810_111320A while back while on a different road trip I stumbled upon an article from YES! Magazine where Native hikers are reclaiming indigenous places by using geotagging and inputting Indigenous place names. As I wrote about before many of the places we know by today’s names are named by white people. Before colonization, Indigenous people had names for places and sadly many of those place names have been erased from our vocabulary and history. In personal and powerful acts of resistance, they are reclaiming history and place by making Indigenous place names known. On my road trip, I saw signage showing Indigenous names of towns and cities prominently displaced. It was a great reminder that I was on Indigenous land and we were guest on their land and at the very least I should learn about the history of their culture and place from the Indigenous perspective.

Ordering Lunch in Missoula

IMG_20180808_131446.jpgDuring our trip to Montana, we spent a few days at a very white campground in Missoula. While that wasn’t the highlight, the highlight was stumbling upon the weekly “Out to Lunch” festival at Caras Park. I ordered lunch from a Thai pop-up stand. While ordering the proprietor asked: “Where are you from?” This question is often fraught with layers of microaggressions, but from her I knew she was excited to see another Asian. We chatted and she told me how she immigrated from Thailand 20-years ago. Her daughter was there and I asked if she speaks Thai, which she does. It was a nice moment of being “with my people” in a land where we are rare– 1% of the Missoula population is Asian. In that moment we resisted the siren call to blend in and give-up important parts of ourselves, we resisted blending into the other 90+% of whiteness.

Book BINGO

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While packing for the road trip I had to choose carefully what to take. Four people, plus camping gear in a Honda Fit was a tight fit. The reading material I chose to take along was an important consideration knowing we would be in places without access to wifi and I had to limit how much reading material I could pack. I chose a book by a poc author to try to work on my Summer Book BINGO card. My reading books and material by authors of color is one important way I actively resist whiteness everyday.

While we were on vacation my kid saw on the map the IMG_20180808_105406Missoula Public Library and made us stop in. I didn’t fight his request since the library was air-conditioned and I was amused he wanted to go to a library on vacation. While we were in there he found some history books to browse and was bummed he couldn’t check them out. Resistance is watching my kid find books that interest him and talking through the material from a racialized standpoint. He’s making critical choices about information to take in and believe and he is developing his own resistance mindset. As a side note, I found these shopping carts by the door, shopping carts at a library – genius!

Museums – So many museums

MVIMG_20180807_141423.jpgAs one does on road trips we stopped by museums and cultural centers. One of my favorites was Sqelixw-Aqlsmaknik (The People’s Center), a cultural center of the Salish, Pend d’Oreille and Kootenai tribes.

We also stopped at other museums and cultural centers. A few made points of highlighting people of color histories in the region. It was also at the museums where I encountered blatant racism. While standing next to a display on Japanese Concentration Camps (internment camps) an old white-bearded dude said to his white companion: “Those Japanese were [are] bad, but not as bad as Obama.” He meant the statement in both the past and present tense. My passive act of resistance as a Japanese American was to give him the side-eye and to move to stand next to him. I don’t think he noticed but it was my way of making my presence known to him.

More Signs of Resistance

Back in Seattle, I found more signs of resistance. Elections have been happening all over the country. I’m excited to see Ilhan Omar’s campaign for Congress. Ilhan is poised to become the first elected immigrant from Africa and the first Somali American in Congress. Knowing we have a president who is hostile to immigrants and actively pushing policies against Muslims and women, having Ilhan Omar in Congress will be an important voice for many of us regardless if she is ‘our’ representative. More locally women of color are running for office: Senator Rebecca Saldaña is running for re-election to Washington’s legislature, Debra Enteman is running for the state House, Pramila Jayapal for Congress, and so many others. For the women of color reading this I hope you will consider running and serving – there are many offices, commission seats, and boards that need to be filled—representation matters.

MVIMG_20180815_153607.jpgOn Wednesday, I joined several teacher candidates for a few hours. My co-panelist was an African American, 30-year veteran family support worker, listening to him talk was a joy. Investing time into this panel was a form of resistance, I could have chosen to put my time elsewhere but spending time with the students gave me the gift of listening to Gerald who works daily with homeless students, families of color, and so many others. He resists allowing people to stereotype the students, he fights systems and prejudices, and most importantly he ‘sees’ kids who need to be seen. If we all worked just a little harder to see people of color we’d all be better off. Walking out of the school I stopped to admire student artwork of people of color, resistance through art is one of the oldest forms of resistance.

Resistance happens all the time and we need it to continue. Sometimes resistance is labeled as ‘troublemakers’ and annoyances (remember the good-guys in Star Wars are known as the Resistance), but they make a difference. I hope you’ll take some time to actively notice and applaud the resistances you see happening. Maybe with enough resistance, we can create a force that overthrows racism. In one last Star Wars Resistance quote: “The Light — It’s Always Been There. It’ll Guide You.”

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Our very own Korean Drama: Part 2 – The Results

By Heidi K. Schillinger

Are we bio sisters? What does the DNA say? I had several people tell me they are waiting for this post. Wanting to know the results of our DNA tests. I guess that means people read the first post. It also gave me (positive) peer pressure to write Part 2. If you missed Part 1 of the Korean family drama, read this post first. To sum it up, the first post captured musings, thoughts, and feelings as two of my sisters and I waited for the results of our DNA tests to learn if we are biologically related.

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Episode 11: The Reveal

After my first insufficient sample debacle, Marki, Unnie, and my niece Carrissa, were impatiently waiting for my second sample results. We promised to wait to open our results all together, and my lack of saliva held things up.

We scheduled a video chat the evening I received my results. And, my nerves bubbled all day long. There was no going back once we opened these results. Was I ready? Not really. But I am famous for jumping in and working out the details later.

After dealing with misplaced passwords (Marki), too many feeling questions (Heidi), and jokes about if I am part chicken (Unnie and Carrissa), we opened our reports.

 

The first report we found was this one –

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After a quick scan, there was silence and some disbelief. According to this first report, there are no close family relatives in the 23andMe database. Wait? Does this mean none of us are related? Not even Marki and me? I must admit to having a brief moment of feeling very alone in this world. Crushed and alone. I know intellectually that family is created, but it was hard to fight feelings of disappointment. Unnie had the best reaction. She questioned the validity of the test and insisted we should take the test again in Korea, as she would only trust Korean tests.

Pause. Silence. Nervous laughter. Disbelief.

Leave it up to our smart niece, Carrissa, to question if we were looking at the correct reports. After a little Google digging, she discovered that we needed to change our privacy settings and allow our results to be shared. And then, boom there it was in black and white, and purple. We are indeed biologically sisters. Whew! Relief. Joy. Love. Validation. Relief.

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Episode 12: We told you so.

Both Marki and Unnie said their Part 2 reflections are, “We told you so.” That is it. Enough said according to them. But I, of course, have a few more words.

Episode 13: “Proof” and Legitimacy

I have been reflecting a lot on what it has meant to me to have “proof” of my biological family, and “proof” I am ethnically Korean. Two very different things, and both complicated. There is too much to unpack in this post, but I will share this. Legitimacy. As an international transracial adoptee, feelings of legitimacy are haunting. People have questioned if I am legitimately Korean, because I didn’t grow up culturally Korean. For a long time, I questioned if I could call myself legitimately Korean. What I have realized is that being Korean is a spectrum of diverse experiences, including mine – despite not fitting into the dominate narrative of what people believe is Korean. I am Korean. I struggle with gaining a greater sense of legitimacy through a DNA test. There is a lot of racist history wrapped up into this notion. Yet, I recognize that feeling. The internalized racist narratives of identity politics are deep and real. I am not immune to these societal messages, despite working hard to try to counter the narratives. Someone in my life asked me if I would still identify as Korean if my DNA results revealed I am mostly ethnically Japanese (or something other than Korean). It was an interesting question to ponder, and I found I do have a significant portion of Japanese ancestry too. In fact, my sisters joked that I am the least Korean of the three of us.

The questions of legitimacy flow into my connections with my biological family as well. Curiosity was the greatest driver of this DNA exploration journey. But I would be lying if I didn’t also admit, I wanted “proof” that Marki and Unnie are irrefutably my biological sisters. Both because there are people in our bio family who don’t believe, and because there is a year and half gap in my life that has been like a missing puzzle piece. Lately, I have been overwhelmed by all the stories that I have heard about why we were given up for adoption that are now sinking in as real. Before I kept them at a slight distance. In some ways disconnected from me. More just a story than part of my story. Some of these stories fill missing holes. Some of these stories create new holes. In many ways, this journey has brought answers and in other ways this journey has created many more questions and extracted tucked away emotions.

Episode 14: Language Matters – the Power of “Really” and “Real”

If I had one ask of you all, it is to be conscious of the language that you use around both identity and family. One of the most powerful ways I have internalized that I need “proof” to be legitimately Korean or legitimately family comes from the ways people use language. Consider what, even unintentional, messages are sent when you ask, “Are you really Korean?” Or when you ask, “Have you found your real family?” I would ask that you believe me when I say I am Korean. And, hope you understand my real family is the one who raised me. And, my biological family is the one who shares my DNA.

To be Continued. . .

This is not the end of our Korean drama, just opening a new season of episodes. Much appreciation and love to my sisters, Marki and Unnie for allowing me to share our story. I am grateful to have you as my sisters, both as a created family and as DNA family.

Thanks for allowing us to share our family story. In the wise words of Erin, “family stories like this are important to understanding how [identity, including] race is shaped, politicized, and increasing our racial literacy. Personal stories increase our understanding of the world and how race is shaped, mutable, and how we build compassion for each other.”

If you are interested in our unedited reactions to learning our results, you can watch it here. It is a bit long, but you can see for yourself the hilarity of misplaced passwords, wondering if I am really Korean or part chicken, and other random jokes.

 

Talking About White Supremacy without Using the Words White Supremacy

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Artwork from Amplifier by Yocelyn Riojas

I got a little help with tonight’s blog topic. Lilliann challenged me to write about white supremacy without using the words white supremacy. My other friend Kirk then said, “but why tho.” I see his point, we need to name bad behaviors so we can speak truth to power and label them to disarm and increase white people’s racial literacy and tolerance. To bring both of these thoughts together in one, hopefully cohesive, blog post I’m going to list out ways white supremacy shows up in our everyday work lives that often goes unnamed.

First, let’s do a short primer on what is white supremacy. Many people, especially white people, see images of white supremacist such as the KKK, cross burnings, Confederate flag, and in modern times the white nationalist movement. Yet this one view of white supremacy is incomplete. White supremacy isn’t just a group of people behaving a certain way, it is also a set of beliefs and attitudes that allow white people to feel superior and demand actions that cater to their needs first. White supremacy is almost never named and because of this, it is an underlying way societies and communities organize that favor whiteness.

Back to Lilliann’s challenge to write about white supremacy without naming it, here is a list of ways white supremacy shows up but not always labeled as white supremacy. One of the reasons the challenge came up is many times as soon as we name white supremacy white people shut down and stop listening and processing. When this happens the conversation is stalled and white supremacy continues to reign. Below are examples where white supremacy happens but is rarely named.

  1. White dude complains loudly and vocally about having to go to diversity training. White supremacy shows up because as a white person he feels he is exempt from having to talk about and think about race. This same white dude will become defensive or sullen white dude in the training either saying “prove it to me,” or refusing to participate using his white power to focus on him versus learning about others.
  2. White business in Chicago that trademarked “Aloha Poke” and is enforcing the trademark and telling other Aloha Poke businesses to cease and desist using Aloha Poke. If you know anything about Hawaiian language and culture the word Aloha is ubiquitous as Hawaii itself. How dare a white guy feel he can ‘own’ (colonialism and a form of supremacy) the word Aloha.
  3. Who controls the giving and the resources, white people. There is no accountability to communities of color. Some foundations do better, some are woke, but overall as an industry and practice philanthropy upholds white supremacy yet we rarely ever name foundation’s as practicing white supremacy. Can you imagine telling the head of a large foundation that their foundation was practicing white supremacy, say goodbye to that multiyear general operating grant.
  4. Only talking about race when around people of color. I have a friend who is white passing and can easily navigate white spaces and poc spaces. He said the conversation changes when pocs are in the room, all white they rarely talk about race. Supremacy at play by not having to think or talk about race unless forced to think and talk about race.
  5. Talking about white fragility instead of talking about racism. Why are you focusing on whiteness instead of the real issue of racism? Supremacy at play, ability to control the conversation to what is more comfortable for white people.
  6. Saying All Lives Matter instead of saying Black Lives Matter. Need this one explained? Supremacy shows up by the dismissal and erasure of Black people. This is also how anti-Blackness shows up in liberal “we’re good people with Black friends” spaces.
  7. Talking about Trump but not talking about his racialized views and policies.
  8. This one isn’t work related, but I’ve seen it come up several times in several parent groups. Cosmic Kids Yoga. I cannot stand Cosmic Kids Yoga – cartoon themed yoga isn’t yoga. A perky blue jumpsuit wearing white women has taken an indigenous practice and stripped it to suit her needs and make a profit. Moana, Trolls, and Star Wars themed and narrated storylines with ‘yoga’ moves is stealing yoga from its indigenous Indian roots. Call it stretching, movement, anything but yoga and I’ll stop ranting, I’m not against teaching kids yoga even by video, I am against a white women stripping yoga of its roots for profit. White supremacy taking what you want when you want and not caring who you stole it from.

I didn’t quite rise to the full writing challenge of not naming white supremacy, but I hope you can now spot more easily how white supremacy behaviors show up in our everyday life. Some may argue some of the examples I used should fall under different terms. I won’t argue with them since naming things is an activity that white society makes us do too. In poc spaces I’ve been in we just talk story and share how annoyed we are with the way it but being able to name white supremacy is one of many ways we have to chip away at it.

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